We roleplay with one another and we roleplay with our hearts.
Sexual compatibility, for instance, is a multiplier on the diversity of our roleplaying experiences, not an equalizer. Sexual attraction is a different multiplier. Sexual opportunity is a third. Along with every other dynamic between us, these three, singly and in their various combinations, add depth and nuance to what our roleplaying is.
Our hearts answer.
How would they not?
In this way, roleplaying is like every other social fun we do.
1. On 2006-04-17, Vincent wrote:
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AG go "Which reminds me..."*
VB go "homebrew!"*
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SDL go "All i know is i really like it ;)"
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Chris go "I'm still jealous"*
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AG go "Wait, that was me right there."
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JMMM go "Release it anyway"*
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Meg, I bristle a bit at the claim that the sociological definitions of sex and gender are the only "correct" ones. They're certainly useful in some contexts, but an ordinary person is well within his or her rights to use the words as synonyms in ordinary conversation. Better to say "Here's a distinction drawn by people who think about these topics a lot" then to say "No, you're using it wrong".
Holy crap, I'm just grammarian boy these days. Tedious Pedantry, 3d8.
Hey, Vincent: You play with your penis, you play with your heart -- one more body part and you can replace the stats in AG&G.
Yeah, you know, here's the thing: I've often heard it said that men don't need emotional connection from sex the way women do. Now, I don't know what women need any more than any other dude, but I've sure always enjoyed emotionally connected sex. Everything else was TEH LAEM.
So, yeah: I like fucking people I like. That's my heart.
BL go "Seconded"
XP go "Thirded"
mneme go "ditto"
Did you ever read a book called "Finite and Infinite Games"? The essential point is we can either play by the rules (Finite games) or play with the rules (Infinite games). The author also talks about finite or inifite sexuality; one can either be sexually engaged in order to have a partner and get the status of having that partner -- or -- one can be sexually engaged in order to grow. Every touch becomes a chance to become a different, greater person.
With RPGs, we can either play in order to have a great character of X level with a boatload of magic items, or we can play in order to change ourselves. Every challenge in the game becomes a chance to grow.
ecb go "awesome way of looking at it."