thread: 2005-09-02 : Meg on Ritual
On 2005-09-05, Ninja Monkey J wrote:
I am poopz0rd, but I will comment momentarily!
Meg, I'd like to see some of this deliberately in action, particularly when playing a game of Dogs or Under the Bed. When entering dangerous territory. I've been thinking a lot about how to have a serious, searching, honest time in a game with my friends, and some sort of barrier would probably help.
Lisa, those who want to play it safe only want to play where they know they will win. It's a no-growth area. My guess is, you wind up on that uncomfortable edge often enough, but need rules and ritual structure to make it safe.
Marco, I agree that the word "safe" here is too ambiguous. What Vincent's talking about, I think, is having a game that can hurt you, but demands that your friends, the rules, and the ritual support your growth from the experience. Where it's a non-sequitur to let your friend twist in the wind when they've just confronted something big, but where you were pushed by rules and friends to wind up with the noose around your neck.
I submit that what Lisa is saying with her first sentence is a fear of being left twisting, which is being conflated with finding yourself there on the gallows. When you know who and where your friends are, you're a lot safer than when you all mutually fear.
