thread: 2005-11-28 : Closeted

On 2005-12-01, Curly wrote:

Abracadabra: You're gay!

There's nothing inherent about that status
which absolutely dictates
whether you'll feel ashamed/uncomfortable/shy about it.
Some people do.  Some don't.

There are factors which -tend- to make you feel
one way or the other.
Such as a climate of intolerance in the society you inhabit.
But some people won't feel shame,
even with the climate in effect.
And some people will feel shame,
even-when the climate is tolerant.
Thats just how different people -are-, and it's impossible to definitively pinpoint why they're that way.

Abracadabra: You're ashamed!

Likewise, I can see factors which would tend to make individuals feel reticent to admit they play rpgs.
And factors which tend against reticence.

But I'd caution against mistaking such factors for
absolute 'reasons' which dictate 'why'
any individual does or doesn't feel reticence.

I suspect the real, unknowable Reason Why or Why-Not lies within each individual.  Not in external factors.

It's intra-personal.  Whereas the "Seriously Social Issue" thread is about inter-personal discomfort.

The common advice for interpersonal rpg misery is Don't Play With Those Particular People If You Don't Feel Good About It.  The intrapersonal corollary would be Don't Do Anything You're Ashamed Of.  Right?  Quit playing rpgs.

Either the play or the shame has got to go.

I don't know whether I've said something inanely obvious/ or something useful. Truisms are often also banalities.


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