thread: 2006-09-08 : Ben on breaking tradition
On 2006-09-13, Rob F. wrote:
Actually, the way I read Sydney's original statement was more like, "Do you think that our women's 'ability to be good' (if you get my drift) comes from, or is helped by, their faith?" Possibly because I read "what" isntead of "who" at the beginning of his question, possibly because my wife was raised Anglican and although she's not practicing now, she believes. I've mentioned this thread to her and for fear of putting words in her mouth I'll let her post or not as she chooses.
As for gratitude - I dunno. This may be a topic for another thread, but I've found that my view is, if someone whom you like helps you, then there's no question of helping them when they need help and "gratitude" is unnecessary; if you don't like the person who helped you, then you're expected to be "grateful", which in practice seems more like guilt and resentment at being indebted. In my wife's case, she's also been shaped by a lot of harsh shit (that happened before we met, I'm glad to say), and I can't be "grateful" for that; I prefer to instead accept its part in making her the woman I love.
