thread: 2006-09-15 : Doing religion with someone can be exactly wrong
On 2006-09-15, Vincent wrote:
He was fulfilling an obligation to me, but it wasn't an obligation I want or expect or helped make. It was his own obligation, between him and I don't know who, not an obligation between him and me. I welcome - I totally welcome - his condolences; Jon, thank you. But he's not obliged as far as I'm concerned.
Even if he would have fully and honestly offered his condolences anyway, which he probably would have, he was calling in his official capacity and there was just no escaping it.
So it wasn't pretend friendship, not at all. It was just that there was something else in there too, something non-mutual, and it made the interaction funny to me instead of real.
